Let me decide who I am, not my weight

  When I found out I was having was having a second daughter so many fears ran through my mind. What if they looks totally different? What if one is prettier? What if they have different hair or body styles. Will they always compete with each other? Will others compare them to one another? 

  

  Kylie was born at 8 lbs 1oz and 19 inches long. Kylie has stayed thin. She has thin blonde curly hair that is beautiful and wild. Lila was born at 8 lbs 13oz and 21 inches long. She was born with rolls upon rolls and has always been in the upper 90 percentile for weight. She is just 2lbs under her older sister who has 18 months on her. Lila has brown thick silky hair that is straight with perfect ringlets at the ends. They look so much a like yet so extremely different. One of my biggest fears about have two girls came true. They have so many different features. Both are absolutely beautiful in their own way. 

  They are constantly compared to one another. Kylie is constantly called beautiful. I get adviced to put her in dance, gymnastics, or cheerleading. I've been told several times about the success she will have in her future. How she will be a heartbreaker and her father better be ready. Lila is called chunk, chubby and thick. I get advice to put her in soccer and softball. I'm told she will be a hands on kind of girl. 

  Already being placed into stereotypes. Even at the ages of 2 and 3 they are judged due to their appearance. They only have a few years to be care free, why take that away? These are their formative years, what you say will stay with them. Do you realize you are teaching them to compare and compete with each other? You are telling them they aren't good enough for certain things. Why is it that because Lila is a bigger girl she needs to be sporty and more masculine? Why is it that Kylie because she is thin needs to be a girly girl? Why do people see the need to categorize and stereotype based on body types? Why can't we let them choose for themselves? Our children should be free to be whatever they want to be. Free to become who ever they want to. How can we teach our children to be comfortable and confident in themselves if we give them limitations due to their appearance? Why are we teaching them that their weight defines them and determines their beauty? 

  Why do we focus on their physical trades? If you're going to talk to me about them why don't we talk about their personalities. Kylie is a sassy and a know it all. She is hard headed and stubborn. She is loving and extremely sensitive. Lila is full off energy. She loves to laugh and is such a cluts. She loves to be scared and is extremely social. Kylie has showed interest in fashion and clothing design. Lila is all about playing doctor. 

  Please think before you speak about my children! I understand you didn't mean anything by what you said, but my children might not. Ignorance isn't always bliss. Sometimes ignorance is just ignorance. Please don't compare my girls. They have all of their teen years to do that themselves. Help me raise confident children. Children who are free to dream without limitations. My girls are beautiful inside and out, let's not take that away with ignorant statements. Beauty doesn't make who you are, who you are is what makes you beautiful.