It's been brought to my attention that I've been placed on a side in this ridiculous mommy war. Why? I do what's best for me and mine. My decisions and choices have nothing to do with you. These choices don't define me as a mother nor make me a better one. What's right for my family might not be right for yours. I don't think I'm better than you, I think we are different people and should live different lives. The world would be boring if we all were exactly the same. There is not just one right way to do things.
I had a discussion with a friend about breast vs bottle. I had no idea how personal this decision was. I had no idea that the decision came along with a side to an ongoing war. Please don't think that because I breastfeed I judge you for not doing so. Yes I breastfeed, but that doesn't mean that I'm a better person for doing so. This doesn't make me a better mother. I breastfeed more because I'm lazy and cheap. Yes its natural and there are health benefits for both mommy and baby. It's also FREE and that's what attracted me to it. I want to be able to spend as much time as I can with my babies. If I bottle fed we would be spending more per week and I would have to go back to work. Formula isn't cheap! Another plus, I don't have to make bottles, so less dishes and I don't have to do as much in the middle of the night. This is where the laziness kicks in. I just pick her up, pop her on and try to stay awake while she eats. All the bonding and health benefits are just a plus. I chose what was right for me and my family. I don't judge you for doing the same. I have no right nor the desire to.
2) I'm a baby wearer 
This one blows my mind! Why do people care? What makes wearing your baby better than pushing them in a stroller? I wear for convenience. Strollers take up so much space. I have not mastered pushing a stroller, it takes skills that I do not have. I can't tell you how many times I've crashed into a display or ripped down a whole rack of clothes. Stores are not designed for strollers. I also have three children and only two hands. Wearing my baby frees up my hands for my other two children to hold. It's just so convenient.
3) I sometimes co sleep
This is goes back to me being lazy. I often fall asleep during late night feeds. Another reason is she sleeps better and I get more sleep. After trying two or three times to get her to sleep on her own, I'll give up and let her sleep on me. I can hear people gasping now. Hey I'm a mom to three young children. If I don't get sleep someone could possibly die. If not from me passing out from sleep deprivation, then from me losing my mind and patience. I try hard not to co sleep because of all the horror stories I've heard, I do what I have to do.
4) I'm a stay at mom
I didn't want any other career. I wanted to be a mom. Some dream of becoming teachers, lawyers, doctors, ect. I dreamed of being a mommy. I want to enjoy every minute I can of it. The thought of someone else getting to spend more time with my babies is too much for me. They are mine and I don't want to share. I sometimes wish I had a passion for other things. When they get older and don't need me I will be lost. For the meantime I'm enjoying it while I can.
5) I don't let people watch my children 
This one is hard for me to tell people. Feelings get hurt. I was raised in an abussive home. I have a hard time putting my trust in people when it comes to my girls. It's always the people you would never think would do something that end up being the monsters. Abusers don't advertise their craziness. This is my issue and should not make you think bad about yourself. This is also another reason why I'm a stay at home mom.
Please don't make snap judgements. The reasons behind what we do isn't always the same as someone else's. I'm not on any side in this ridiculous war. Love your babies and do what's best for your family. Who cares about everyone else.
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